How a Divorced, Out-of-Shape, Depressed Computer Geek Turned His Dating Life Around by Learning the Secrets of Attraction!

Hey Dude!

Robert here.

I wanna talk to you about women. Delicious wonderful women! I love them. You probably love them. Even many women love women! Yaaaaaa!

And I want to talk about getting the girl. Finding, attracting and keeping that someone YOU want to attract, date and keep.

And I don’t mean accidentally finding someone and accidentally turning her on and making her crazy for you. I don’t mean crossing your fingers and hoping she likes you. Because I’ve lived most of my young life passively hoping that hot girls would magically be into me.

And they NEVER were.

Finding love and creating romance for yourself doesn’t happen by accident. Just like people don’t get rich and successful by accident.

Sexual success requires intent and action.  Sex requires INTENT and ACTION. Being good with women requires a little know-how and understanding and some special understandings.

I know that NOW, but I didn’t always.

Getting the girl isn’t just a Hollywood fantasy; attracting beautiful women isn’t the sole domain of the super rich, the super hunk, or the outrageously gifted.

Obviously attracting that special woman doesn’t come naturally to all of us, or even most of us, but it IS something that can be learned… and now I get it!

Now I have this part of my life handled.

Today I can go to any bar, or lounge, or even go shopping at the mall and I know exactly what to do and say in order to get a girls number, build her attraction for me, and end up having as many dates as I can handle.

And it’s not because I’m some hot gifted rich guy… because I’m barely average to look at, I’m not famous or rich. Instead I’ve spent many hard years making mistakes with women, embarrassing myself, tripping over my need to make girls like me. I made all of the typical mistakes we guys can make. And even though all I ever really wanted was to make some girl happy, I was constantly being rejected and ignored.

Why did I fail so badly all the time?

Because I had the wrong beliefs about myself, about women, and about sex. Which lead me to feeling the wrong way, saying the wrong things, and scaring away the right girls.

What if I told you that under my direction, you will be able to:

  • Feel happy and excited when approaching new women, instead of nervous, insecure, or timid before you even approach!
  • Easily eliminate a woman’s resistance of her labelling you a “creep,” and be able to playfully flirt and create a romantic connection!
  • Never run out of things to say, build trust, and turn up the heat in the bedroom with that special someone!

Would you feel EXCITED to meet new women if you had those little secret social skills that made you more confident and intersting?

You could be able to naturally attract women, and you’ll be able to do so without all of the “traditional” aspects that you think women want, such as…

  • Status or “power”
  • How much money you make
  • Your age
  • How tall you are
  • Your genetic looks

Seems unreasonable? Allow me to introduce myself then…

Who is Robert Belland Anyways?

I’ll tell you who I’m NOT first.

I’m no George Clooney. I was not a born “natural.”

I really was never good with women throughout my teens and the beginning of my adult life. I was always pretty friendly, however, and thanks to the power of proximity I met a girl when I was 19, dated her for years and eventually managed to get married…


At 28 I suffered a rude awakening because I was divorced with barely any friends. I was depressed, overweight, and had hit rock bottom. Here’s what I looked like:

I had entered the very different world of dating with absolutely no skills at socializing, meeting, or attracting women. I’ve always loved women but it seemed that the more I tried to meet and impress them the more frustrated and rejected I became.

I didn’t even know that there were any “methods” you could learn how to attract women!

My first instinct was to lose weight and to get fit.

And honestly that’s a good instinct. It turns out feeling good about how I looked really helped how I felt about myself.

I updated my wardrobe, diet, and training.

I really turned my health around and ended up looking my best!

I even waxed my back… I know, right?

From there, my journey began…

I Started Meeting Girls

After feeling pretty good about my appearance my confidence returned and I started talking to girls again. However, the only thing my “makeover” did was made me realize that I actually had ZERO skills in attracting women.

This confused and frustrated me. I could meet women without much problem (because I was cute and nice) but I could not get a second date to save my life!

Meeting girls was easy.

I did not suffer from “being scared to approach” (which is the easiest part). It turns out I had already developed some decent inner game around approaching and talking to women, all of which I explain in my my book or video course ..

Meeting women was fine but turning one of them into my girlfriend was an impossibility.

Every time I was interested in a girl she ended up walking away from me after just a few dates.

What Was I Doing Wrong?

After analyzing my results and carefully trying to figure things out, the answer was this:

I wasn’t creating attraction.

I was being super nice which builds rapport and comfort, but has a hidden side effect nobody taught me… pushing her “comfort” buttons doesn’t turn her on.

(NOTE: Women DO need to feel connection and comfort, of course, but FIRST they need to feel curious, and attractive, and invited to be playful.)

So I sulked for about a year before I got my act together.

Then I started reading.

I started reading everything I could on dating, pickup, attraction and seduction. I became hungry for knowledge, and VERY excited to learn that some skills CAN be learned.

I started to learn from my stupid mistakes!

I also started to notice something I’ve since coined as the “IGNORE and SCORE” method of attraction and dating. I started to notice the way some guys would behave around really hot girls. And it was completely different than how I was acting.

I paid attention, applied my knowledge, and I started dating again. And the result was…

I Finally Found Success!

Social Skills Helped Me Make New Friends!

I also discovered that strong Inner Game manifests strong Outer Game and so I was able to build my social circle of friends – which consisted of women that were made friends by MY choice.


For years now I’ve met hundreds of amazing women. I raised my standards, improved my self-esteem, rebuilt my personal boundaries and expectations, and I raised the bar for the type of women I wanted to ultimately end up with.

Something else happened (this will shock you)…

I was happy and content and kinda got fat… I gained about 30 lbs…

But since I now have rock solid inner game and my mindsets are built around confidence and attractiveness – it has NOT slow my dating life at all!

Try to understand something…

My goal was never to go out and get laid (although I did).

My goal was never to get any girl I met (although I always seem to get the girls I really want).

Ultimately, all I was looking for was real love from just one amazing woman.

Today I’m living comfortably as a computer geek, while hanging out with my beautiful girlfriend. (Follow me on instagram to see my hot little lady, my cats, and a peek into my life.)

I’m overweight AND yet I’m still loved by a beautiful woman!

Because women aren’t attracted to just our superficial appearances, but instead mostly to our personality, energy and style!

It’s not how we look as a guy… it’s who we ARE as a MAN that affects how she will FEEL when she’s with us… and it’s ALL about how she FEELS!

Get The Girl

Hopefully you’ve noticed that my sexual success has been no accident.

I am living proof that someone can go from absolute rock bottom to living in abundance with women!

I am not special. I do not possess any genetic advantage over you.

But I AM curious. And I AM willing to put in a little work and effort to get what I want. I have INTENT in my life, and I take ACTION, and the pay off is an abundance of romantic choice and satisfaction!

I simply got scientific when it came to my dating life, and I’ve gathered all of my findings in my book and video course and I’ve wrapped it all in a neat bow-tie for you!

Over the last 15 years I’ve dated the most beautiful women I ever thought possible, I’ve read more books on dating and pickup than most, and I’ve had hundreds of dates in my endless pursuit of learning about love, sex, and relationships.

This is a lifestyle I used to dream about, and now it’s my MISSION to share it with every frustrated man I can find!

If I can save just ONE MAN (you) from the embarrassment of rejection by teaching him (you) how to avoiding typical dating mistakes then my book or video course will have been well worth all the hours I’ve spent writing it!


Here’s what you’ll learn upon purchasing…


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Dating Secrets Revealed in IGNORE & SCORE

  • You’ll realize what 3 aspects of your appearance play the biggest role in getting her attention (and it’s not what you think)
  • Why a woman resists a guy even when she’s really into him, and how to use this as an advantage to your dating success!
  • Reason why women really do want to date a “nice guy”
  • Understanding there’s a fine line between teasing and playful banter – I reveal some of my best banter lines that will guarantee she’ll ATTRACT rather than SLAP.
  • Learn what a woman’s “bitch shield” is and how to properly ignore it so that you stand out from every other chump.
  • The differences between a direct approach and an indirect approach and the proper way to use each one to maximize your success when first meeting a beautiful woman!
  • Discover why women simply don’t value a guy they can get easily, and how to become the playful guy women love to chase.
  • Discover what stops most men from dating beautiful women ( it’s got nothing to do with a lack of fame, fortune, or genetics)
  • I explain the difference between being good looking and looking good
  • 6 simple things you could say to subtly communicate your interest that invites her to become curious about you instead of bored with you.
  • 8 ways you may unknowingly be giving away your power to her and why it will kill her attraction for you.
  • How a woman tests you and how to easily pass her tests and get closer to sexual escalation
  • You might be surprised at the way family and friends can actually hinder your dating life, and what you can do about it.
  • How the FEAR of approaching a woman can be used to actually make her more attracted to you.
  • How to tell if she’s really into you or not.
  • Word-for-word questions you SHOULD be asking her that will naturally make her more curious about you.
  • 8 quick tips for telling a powerful story, which can create a great emotional connection with a woman.
  • 3 simple ways to remove a woman’s fears and resistance to your escalation.
  • A powerful way to instantly build her attraction and rapport that will make you seem irresistible and fun, which most men absolutely neglect! .
  • How this one behavior will erode her attraction for you and can destroy your chance of a happy long-term relationship.
  • The 5 things a woman instantly assesses about you when she first see’s you, and how to make the most of your first impression.
  • 5 questions you should ask yourself to help you from unknowingly making the same dating mistakes over and over again (something I did in my first year of meeting women)
  • 14 non-verbal ways she might indicator her interest in you, as well as 19 others you shouldn’t miss.
  • What it means to be an attractive man and how to lead a lifestyle that naturally brings you success.
  • How to tell when she’s ready to be seduced, and what most men do wrong when they first try to escalate the physical relationship with her.
  • This is something you might be doing that will destroy your chances of creating real intimacy with any women you date.
  • 5 things you should NEVER do when in bed with a woman!
  • Chapter “Score Sexual Intimacy” defines “sex,” and explains her sexual drives.

And much, much more!

The Book and Video Course will also do the following:

  • Help the average insecure shy guy by giving him the core skills to turn himself into an attractive self-assured congruent man of action, charm, masculine authority and purpose.
  • Clarify the damaging domestication we men have been given with the hopes of rediscovering our inner power of self assurance, validation, and approval.
  • Help us deconstruct the seemingly bizarre behavior of women, with the goal of removing our frustrations with them, and replacing this confusion with a full appreciation and understanding of their motivations, genetic drives, and personal desires.
  • Help us unite men together to help stop the spread of the boy-masculine disease that’s infecting many of todays male populations, causing women to be left unsatisfied, and men feeling confused and helpless.
  • Promote the overall emotional growth and maturity of men.

When you understand these FOUNDATIONS (Attraction, Leading, Rapport, Escalation) you’ll be able to see social interactions in an entirely new way! You’ll see things that were once invisible to you… the invisible aspects of social dynamics will becomes clear.

With these powerful dating mindsets you’ll feel totally empowered and prepared to approach and attract any woman you desire, while the rest of the socially-handicapped dudes clumsily flailing about, scaring women directly into your arms.

You will eventually see that it’s the angry, bitter, and confused men of the world who gift-wrap their women FOR US GUYS WHO GET IT.

Still not convinced? See What Others Have to Say!

“Robby the author of this book is a legend! I enjoyed reading every page. I bought this on iPhone and got to say it made me feel a bit better after a break up already. This book as I read in previous review is about learning your self it’s a 5 star from me and it has links and email advice.” – Jack H.

“Helps you understand more about yourself as well as the complexities of dating. It gives examples of what we have all done at one point or another that we regretted later on and gives examples on how to go about it differently the next time. This book will also boost your confidence. For the price, it can’t be beat.” – Ryan M.

“First time I ever left a feedback but I just had to! This is one of those books that makes you say “darn it, where was this book when I was in my teens and twenties.” This gets to the psychology of women and men. Robert explains his material in a very succinct and straight-forward without pulling the punches (admit it: us guys need to hear the truth no matter if it hurts).” – Steven K.

Here’s Your Chance to Live the Dating Life of Your Dreams…

I will add two things…

First, when you purchase this course you will have LIFE-TIME access to it and all of it’s future upgrades. I am constantly getting feedback from students and it’s my goal to make this course as amazing as possible! So I’ll never raise the price but I’ll constantly be trying to increase it’s value to you.

Second, if you’re not getting the dating results you expect by following my suggestions and directions then simply ask for a full refund! I would never want you to be unhappy! If you are unsatisfied with your purchase, contact me in the first 30 days and I will give you a full refund.

If you’re struggling with women like I once was, I urge you to get your hands on my book. For a couple bucks It’s a no-brainer.

Just below you will see three places you can buy this book, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iTunes.

From there you’ll be able to instantly download (or order a print copy) to begin reading all of my very best tips and techniques for meeting and dating beautiful women. You don’t even need to read this book from cover to cover, simply pick and choose the sections that stand out most to you.

Buy it, read it, and if it doesn’t help you at all return it. Then email me and complain! Amazon has an amazing return policy and my email address is in my book. Seriously, let me know what you think.

IF YOU ALREADY OWN IT: If you already own my book you can go to the top right hand side of this page and gain access to special resources I’ve referenced within each chapter of the book, as well as leave comments/questions/or suggestions. I really appreciate your help and feedback!

Please email me personally if you have any questions… (I read and respond to all of them)!

I wish you a new and continued success with women,


~ Robert Belland

P.S. – You can access my $197 video course from this page at 50% off today, with this special link: VIDEO COURSE

P.P.S. – Check out my FREE Escape the Friendzone video course, if you already have a special someone in your life you’d like to make MORE than just friends…



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