Be choosy – define your preferences
OLD MINDSET: Women are very choosy and I need to make sure my profile fits as many women’s preferences as possible! This will give me better odds at attracting a woman.
NEW MINDSET: I’m very choosy and the more specific I make my profile the more suited the woman will be who chat with me.
OLD MINDSET: I’m hoping to find a girl who likes me, and I hope she’s cute.
NEW MINDSET: I’m seeking an attractive woman who fits within my desires and brings something special to the table.
There are a few ways to instantly communicate to a woman that you have high value, but being choosy is one of the best!
A woman must assess your value using what she sees, hears, smells and feels. It’s the feeling portion that happens almost unconsciously for her. Most of us can just sense when someone is safe to be around and when someone might be dangerous, even if they don’t say a word.
That’s because our unconscious minds can recognize safe and unsafe behavior patterns. Her connection to her feelings and emotions are wired very strongly so you must learn to communicate to her along these subconscious channels.
The easiest way to do this is to operate with honesty and sincerity. When you’re being honest, she’ll feel safe. If she feels you’re behaving disingenuously, she’ll feel you’re unsafe and think you’re a fake.
When you are choosy about the women you date this communicates to her that you’re not desperate or needy. This tells her that you get girls, and there are few things as attractive to a woman as a man who has the interest of many other women. If you communicate to her that you don’t need her, and that other women want you, she’llrecognize your high value.
So how do you communicate in your profile that you have choice with women? You simply define your preferences.
Here is a typical female profile. Notice how her profile outlines her preferences. She is a woman who is choosy, which really only makes her more attractive. I’ve outlined in red the comments that help indicate her value and selectiveness.
Here’s another girl’s profile, which starts off listing her preferences, and the things she DOESN’T want in a man; she’s VERY selective.
How about this girl? She’s so confident in herself that all she writes is this:
My point is that women who think of themselves as “high value” always outline what they want. You should do the same thing!
After you’ve written something about yourself that describes yourself, ALWAYS include something that defines the type of woman you’re looking for.
Example # 1
Your profile will be doing MOST of your pickup so this is where almost all of your efforts should be going before you start worrying about what to say in your openers.
Here’s an example profile I just wrote for my 21 year old nephew. He’s 21, 6 foot 1”, athletic, self-employed, and ruggedly good-looking.
This was on PlentyOfFish.com:
Me: I've got a great sense of humor. I'm a very well liked, respectable kind of guy. I like camping and fishing and I like to travel and snowboard. I'm enjoying the new career path I've just begun, and living in Alberta kinda rocks right now! I love meeting new people but I'm not looking to rush into becoming your serious boy toy just yet...let's just hangout and see what's wut.
You: You're around my age but if you've got a magnificent set of frontal lobes then we can negotiate. You're funny, smart, fit and fun. Your relationships with your family and friends come first, and you’re charmed because your pet cat loves me, even though she hates everyone else!
P.S. If you're too shy to say hello, then ask one of your friends to pass me a note that says "My friend likes you...do you like her too? Circle Yes or No"
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