The dynamic of your relationship is completely exposed by the way you hold each other’s hands.

I’m not a writer. At least I don’t see myself as one, and lord knows I barely passed high school English, so when I’m told that my blog posts are too long it surprises me. Looking back I can see that your criticisms are well founded. I tend to blab too much. So this blog post will be my attempt at brevity and to-the-pointed-ness.

I want to perform a science experiment. And by science I mean Google search, and by experiment I mean find-photos-that-support-my-suspicions.

Will this blog end up in a peer-reviewed science magazine?

Mom says no.

Will it provide you with a piece of the puzzle that is Dating Dynamics and therefore a significant step towards greater success with women and dating?


Why do couples hold hands?

To connect: [ New York Times article ]

Because it’s natural: [ Otters holding hands ]

For healing: [ Reuniting Online Article ]

Good reasons for holding her hand?

There are two major reasons to hold her hand when you first start dating:
1) When you’re leading and protecting her (helping her through the paparazzi, around the club, across the street, or into your vehicle.)
2) When you’re bonding. This is either during the honeymoon phase Honeymoon Phase of your relationship or after you’ve already had sex.

Bad reasons for holding her hand?

1) To dominate and control her. It communicates to her that you don’t respect her enough to let her make her own decisions. It also indicates that you’re so insecure about your relationship with her that you refuse to allow her to operate independent from you. This is sad. Don’t be this guy.
2) To tell other men she’s your property and off the market. These are the guys who are always watching which other men are looking at their girl. His insecurity is that she’s going to find someone better, and she probably will. Women like dominant men, not domineering men.

Hand Holding also indicates who’s wearing the pants in the relationship

I did a quick Google search and didn’t find any hard evidence to support this theory but I’ll pretend like I did. When you see couples holding hands you can always tell who’s the ‘man’ and who’s the ‘woman.’ The person’s who’s hand is on top, or infront, of the other’s hand is the leader.

Holding Hands Leader

Most women, and I’ll generalize here because it’s my blog, prefer a man who leads them. He leads her to safety, leads her to fun, leads her away from danger, and leads her onto their next adventure together.

If you’re not willing to walk in front of your woman while holding her hand (as a wall of protection against the dangers of the world or simply because you’re leading her from one place to the next) then she’ll unconsciously FEEL your weakness and possibly feel frustrated with you.

Hollywood couples

Don’t believe me?

Here’s my extensive research in the matter:

David Beckham and Tom Cruise and George Clooney

As you can see these leading men are setting the example.

How about two Alpha’s like Bratt Pitt and Angelina Jolie? This one is more tough:

David Beckham and Tom Cruise and George Clooney

Here are some more examples:

Johnny Depp and Seal and Jason Bateman

Will Smith and Keith Urban

These are interesting…

Ellen Degeneres and George Bush

Here are two couples that didn’t last… for some reason… you do the math.

Madonna and Evangeline Lilly

In Conclusion…

Early into your first few dates find any reason you can to lead her by the hand. Perhaps you’re helping her out of the car, to your table in a resturant, or through a crowded room. This helps you frame the rest of your relationship VERY early. Plus this will invite her to trust you, and to follow you. As an added tip; if you’ve taken her hand to lead her somewhere be sure to release it before she does.

That’s all I got.

~ Robby

P.S. Don’t be like these guys.

Madonna and Evangeline Lilly

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